On one's laurels, that is. The question does not admit of a universal answer. Everyone must come up with a personal response.
There are different ways to ask the question, too. Perhaps, “Have I earned the
right to ...?” or “Am I now comfortable with the decision to ...?” This post is about dreams,
about making them come true, and about putting them back on the shelf.
Throughout my adolescence, I
dreamed of a career on the stage. Sometimes I planned to become a serious
actor, other times a folk singer or a blues singer, and occasionally I imagined
myself combining singing and acting on the musical comedy stage. As a young girl, whenever I was alone I was almost
never not singing. I would sing my
way (very dramatically) down the sidewalks between my high school and downtown after my half-day finished up at 12:30 or so with orchestra practice,
only closing my mouth when another pedestrian came within hearing range.
Because here’s the dirty
little secret about dreams: They’re easy to have. They cost nothing and involve
no risk of public exposure. Making dreams come true – daring to make dreams come true – ah, that’s another matter!
Well, eventually, butterflies in
stomach and heart in mouth, I went public with the performance dream. My
sister and I, she in her first year of high school when I was in my last, made
a couple of appearances as a folk duo, granny dresses and all. I tried out for plays and landed parts. Then in my 20s,
first with a jazz quartet and later with a honky-tonk piano player, I sang at
parties and in clubs in Lansing, Traverse City, and Kalamazoo. There was never
a time I wasn’t nervous beforehand, but as long as I didn’t have to talk to the
audience (I’d warned my piano player ahead of time that he would have to
provide all the patter) I got through those evenings just fine. Enjoyed them.
Felt “in my element.” Where I belonged.
When I decided to take a
break from performing, that’s really all I had in mind – a little break – but I
never did go back. What surprised me in later years was that I had no regrets.
The thing is, I had those gigs.
Had I never gone public, only harbored a secret, unfulfilled dream, I’m sure
I’d have regrets aplenty. But no. At this stage of life, I’m resting on my
vocalist laurels, content with having, for a while, dared to make that dream
Another dream took me away
from the drudgery of office work and into another world altogether. I came to
philosophy late in life but did not keep that dream hidden in a closet, either.
It took years, but I finished my undergraduate and then my graduate degrees and
subsequently taught part-time, off and on, at Northwestern Michigan College in
Traverse City. College teaching was no more a lifetime career for me than
singing, but I’m proud of having achieved at least a modest reality for that
dream, and so yes, I rest on my teaching laurels, too.
Years ago, when we lived in
Kalamazoo, David and I made regular weekend trips out to the nearby village of
Paw Paw. From late spring to early fall, the flea markets were a main
attraction, but we had friends in Paw Paw, we made many paddle and float trips
down the little Paw Paw River, and always we dreamed of having a bookshop
downtown. Paw Paw would be perfect, we told each other – less expensive rents than
Kalamazoo but close enough to the city attract faculty and students from Western
Michigan University and Kalamazoo College. Fast forward (through a long,
winding, complicated history that has no place here) to 1993 and the birth of
Dog Ears Books on Waukazoo Street in Northport. Another dream come true! A
dream now in its twenty-first year of life (and don’t think that fact doesn’t still amaze me).
No independent bookseller,
however, can afford to rest on her laurels and keep her business alive.
Every year a bookseller learns many new things, and every year the business
changes and there are more new things to be learned. Being the only bookstore
in a small village is no guarantee of a local clientele, either, because it’s easy for people in cars to drive by the same businesses
day after day without stopping. They need reasons to stop, reasons to visit, reasons to come back, and it’s up to the bookseller, i.e., the bookstore owner, to be constantly generating new reasons for people
to come in.
This blog has more than one
purpose. It’s a quiet little avenue of self-expression, a place for me to try
out thoughts and ideas, as well as a bulletin board of sorts for local events and somewhat of
an online diary, but it’s also an attempt to keep my little Up North
bookstore from fading out of customers’ consciousness when they are
elsewhere. Long ago someone said to me mournfully, “You just can’t compete with
Borders, can you?” He didn’t get it. Borders was a chain, and Dog Ears Books
was and is unique. That’s what I thought at the time, and then, when Borders
stores closed all across the U.S., my first thought was, I’m still standing.
I’m still here.
Life comes with no
guarantees. Each of us, one by one, we make our choices, and we take our chances.
We keep dreaming, keep learning, keep daring, keep moving -- or we’re not alive
So when it comes to
bookselling, I’m not resting on my laurels. Things are going to be quieter at the bookstore for a
few months, that’s all. Glenn Wolff was our big December event star, and now we
won’t be doing events until spring, but the bookstore will be open, five
days a week through the end of the year, closed Sundays and Mondays. (In
January we’ll decelerate, going on a four-day schedule, Wednesdays through
Saturdays, 11 a.m. – 3 p.m.) And this blog will continue through the winter, too, wandering through book reviews, snowy dog walks in the woods, news from my
authors and reading groups and the art world and the local community and,
well, whatever other camels get their noses under the tent.
Making a dream come true and then keeping it alive takes much more than simply “having” it. Actualizing
and sustaining a dream takes continued attention and dedication. You have to want it, yes, but you have to do more than just
want it. Cost can be measured in countless ways -- in hours of sleep lost, for instance.
It’s too soon to know if I’ll
someday rest on my bookseller laurels (there is that chicken dream, after all) or simply die in harness. All I know right now is
that the time of resting has not yet come.
For all of us, there are always more leaps off the cliff to be made, as long as life and health hold out, but it’s good to stop from time to time and pat ourselves on the back for what we’ve accomplished, too. What about you? What dreams
are you proud of having dared to make true? Which ones are still going strong ones, and which have you retired, accepting for your accomplishment a laurel crown?